The Physical and Emotional Toll of Trauma

Being the victim of domestic violence and a narcissistic mother have taken a toll on my mind and body.

The emotional weight of trauma isn't just psychological—it manifests physically. In September 2024, I was diagnosed with congestive heart failure due to stress.

I try to distance myself from my mother, but that is hard when my father is bedridden due to Parkinson’s Disease and dementia. He is on hospice now due to his kidneys failing.

I just try to limit my contact with her and be there for him.

What helps me cope

Navigating this heavy season of grief and family distress would feel impossible without a source of comfort. For me, that comfort comes in the form of my Frenchie named Bijoux who is my emotional support animal. She makes me smile each and every day and it begins when we start our day.

I also deal with my depression by listening to music. Music has always helped me cope with life. Some songs happy, some sad…but they all comfort me in their own way, in the moment.