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Dating After Divorce

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By Divorceddadof3

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I am a divorced father of 3 girls. As my profile mentions, I was married for 12 years. The marriage (like all marriages) in the beginning was great, then around the 10th year, it just went downhill as my now ex-wife was having an affair. I actually stayed in the marriage for my daughter's sake.

I feel I have anxiety when thinking about dating someone new. It's a huge fear of intimacy that stems from my previous marriage. I want to say it's like PTSD, but I can't really use this term because those who served really deal with PTSD.

Anxious about intimacy

I'm a guy who is actually scared to have sex again. I actually avoid it. I love sex, but issues from my previous marriage steer me clear of wanting to have sex again with someone new.

How common is this? Does this only affect men?

There is that horrible stigma where the size comes into play , and thanks to porn playing a huge role. I also feel like men have to deal with lasting long enough and if we don't, we're not great in bed. To me it's not worth the pressure to have sex.

I know call me weird but it's true. I don't think I turned to asexual as I think sex is a wonderful thing in a relationship . I just seem to turn away , head in the opposite direction if it's related to sex

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